How to Reclaim Your Identity and Sit In Your Truth
Finding Your Authentic Self After a Lifetime of Performing
Many of us grow up learning to be what others want.
We perform to stay safe. To be accepted. To avoid conflict.
We adjust our personalities, beliefs, and even our appearance to meet expectations.
Over time, this performance can feel like your real self.
But deep down, you may start to feel the disconnect and awaken to the truth: you are more than the role you were taught to play.
What Does It Mean to Reclaim Your Identity?
Reclaiming your identity means peeling back the layers of performance and conditioning.
It’s the process of asking:
Who am I really?
What do I want when I’m not trying to please others?
Where does my voice get quiet — and why?
This isn’t a surface-level makeover. It’s soul-deep work.
It often involves grief.
The grief of lost time, of old versions of you, of relationships that only existed when you conformed.
The Power of Naming Your Truth
For transgender and nonbinary people, this journey is especially profound.
To live in a world that may not honor your identity — and still choose to claim it — is an act of sacred courage.
Choosing your name.
Wearing what affirms you.
Speaking your truth out loud.
Setting boundaries with those who can’t see you.
These are not small things. They are acts of liberation.
But this journey isn’t exclusive to gender identity.
Anyone who has been pressured to hide, shrink, or perform can relate to the experience of reclaiming self.
Warning Signs You’re Living for Others
If you’re not sure whether you’re living in alignment, here are a few signs:
You feel disconnected from your body, your emotions, or your voice.
You keep peace at the cost of your truth.
You experience burnout from being the “strong one” or the “peacemaker.”
You don’t know what you actually want, only what’s expected.
What Claiming Your Throne Means
In our framework, The Throne represents sovereignty, identity, and self-worth.
To sit in your throne is to:
Own who you are without apology
Speak your needs without guilt
Trust your inner knowing, even when it disrupts the norm
Claiming your throne doesn’t mean domination.
It means grounded power. Sacred self-respect.
A return to the center of your own story.
How to Start Reclaiming Your Identity
If you’re ready to reconnect with who you truly are, here are a few starting points:
Write a letter to your younger self — not just with love, but with truth.
Make a “Not Me” list: the roles, habits, and masks you’re shedding.
Use identity-affirming language when you talk to yourself.
Say: This is who I am now.Notice what makes you feel expansive — and what makes you shrink.
Consider working with a therapist or coach who understands identity work or deconstruction.
Final Thoughts: You Are Not Too Much
There is nothing wrong with you for wanting to be seen clearly.
You don’t have to stay small to keep others comfortable.
You don’t have to wait for permission to become who you are.
You were never “too much.” You were simply trying to exist in spaces that asked you to be less.
Sitting as your true self — on your throne — is not selfish. It’s sacred.
Because when you live in alignment, you give others permission to do the same.
