What Sovereignty Really Means: Reclaiming Power Without Losing Yourself
Understanding Sovereignty and the Inherent Right to Be Fully You
There’s a lie most of us are handed early in life.
It’s not spoken directly, but it lives under every rule, every silence, every expectation to stay small and compliant:
You must earn your power.
You must prove your worth.
You must wait until someone deems you ready.
We learn to equate authority with permission.
We wait for credentials, gatekeepers, applause, any kind of external signal that says NOW you’re allowed to be powerful.
But here’s the truth:
Power that comes from outside you can always be taken away.
Sovereignty cannot.
What Is Sovereignty?
Sovereignty is not dominance. It’s not entitlement. It’s not shouting over others or needing to be right.
Sovereignty is self-ownership.
It’s the calm, rooted authority of someone who knows who they are and doesn’t outsource that truth to anyone else.
It’s claiming your identity — even if others disapprove.
It’s honoring your voice — even if it shakes.
It’s choosing your next step — even if no one claps.
Sovereignty doesn’t beg for validation.
It listens inward, acts in alignment, and stands tall without apology.
Why This Is So Hard
If you were raised in systems where:
Obedience was mistaken for goodness
Visibility was punished
Individuality was unsafe
Or power was only modeled through control…
Then of course power feels foreign.
Of course your shine feels dangerous.
Of course you second-guess your right to make decisions, draw boundaries, or take up space.
But your worth is not something you earn through over-giving, perfection, or pain.
You are powerful because you exist, not because you meet every expectation placed on you.
Personal Power Can Come at a Price
For many women — and anyone raised to be agreeable, nurturing, or “nice” — stepping into power feels like stepping into a trap.
Show strength, and you’re intimidating.
Set boundaries, and you’re cold.
Speak clearly and know what you want, and you’re bossy, difficult, too much.
To be taken seriously, we’re often expected to embody masculine qualities — to be decisive but not emotional, confident but not “dramatic,” assertive but not threatening.
It’s exhausting.
It’s artificial.
And it leaves no room for the wholeness of who we are: the intuitive, fierce, soft, wild, tender, wise, and deeply feeling parts that deserve to lead without apology.
Power doesn’t have to look like a sword.
It can look like a hand over your heart.
A firm “no.”
A joyful “yes.”
A steady presence that doesn’t ask for permission to exist.
You Don’t Need to Be “Ready” to Rise
Your power isn’t waiting on:
A degree
A permission slip
A milestone
Or perfect healing
You don’t need to become someone else to be powerful.
You need to become fully yourself.
You are the throne. You are the crown.
You are the voice you’ve been waiting to hear.
And you don’t have to wait anymore.
