What I Know About Wholeness — Notes from the Ongoing Journey

Art representing wholeness that cracks but is never broken — just letting light break through

Because it’s not a final destination. It’s a relationship.

I used to think wholeness was a finish line — a feeling I’d arrive at once I was healed, clear, integrated.

But it doesn’t work like that.

At least, not for me.

Here’s what I know about wholeness… so far.

1. Wholeness doesn’t mean everything feels good.

Sometimes wholeness is grief and awe, sitting side by side.

Sometimes it’s your gut clenching as you do the right thing.

Sometimes it’s softness you thought you lost… returning.

2. Wholeness is messy.

It includes the sharp parts, the inconvenient parts, the still-learning parts.

It makes room for contradiction — not as a flaw, but as a feature.

3. Wholeness doesn’t mean you’re done changing.

It means you’re not fighting the truth of where you are.

4. Wholeness isn’t something you achieve.

It’s something you remember.

And sometimes, it’s something you forget — and then remember again.

5. Wholeness isn’t a constant feeling.

It’s a deeper knowing. A quiet hum.

Even when everything feels splintered, some part of you remembers: “I’m still here.”

6. Wholeness lets you stop performing.

You don’t have to be palatable.

You don’t have to be impressive.

You don’t have to be anyone other than who you honestly are, in this moment.

7. Wholeness makes room.

For other people’s light.

For other people’s pain.

For everything that doesn’t match your idea of how it’s supposed to go.

8. Wholeness isn’t about being full.

It’s about being true.

Even if that means being empty for a while.

9. Wholeness can’t be stolen.

No matter what broke you, no matter what was taken —

your wholeness is not gone.

It’s just hiding, waiting to be welcomed home.

10. Wholeness is the thing beneath the things.

The you beneath the roles.

The light beneath the fracture.

The soul beneath the striving.

I’m still learning.

Still spiraling.

Still forgetting and remembering.

But what I know, so far, is this:

Wholeness isn’t something you become.

It’s something you let yourself be.

What does wholeness feel like for you? Share with us in the comments below!